The saying above is so true! Have you ever met someone who is stunning beyond compare, but quickly shattered that illusion by opening their mouth? Yep. That my friends, is a beautiful person with an ugly personality. If you don’t work on yourself on the inside; it doesn’t matter how beautiful or attractive you may be, no person of good substance will want to put up with you. Here are a few qualities that I believe set a good foundation in your heart to pave the way for a beautiful personality.
I’m so sorry to say this, but if you’re currently living in this world, you are going to get hurt. It’s funny how we even end up hurting the ones we love the most! You can choose to either stay a bitter person full of resentment towards these people who hurt you, or you can take the higher road- which is forgiveness. It’s for your own piece of mind, and also a subtle recognition that you will need it just as much as those who hurt you.
This might not always be the easiest trait to achieve, but it certainly makes your life ten times easier! This is simply hearing people out, and learning to give them the benefit of the doubt when all signs are telling you opposite. You don’t always know what happens behind the scenes in people’s lives or everyday scenarios, so learn to have some grace towards them.
Should you have to like everyone you cross paths with in this life? Absolutely not. Should you love everyone you come across in this life? Absolutely. This is my personal belief, so adopt it if you’d like or don’t- but keep an open mind either way! I believe it’s the people who hurt us are the ones who need to be shown the most love. Remember that hurting people hurt people. This kind of ties into the “understanding” trait.
You don’t have to be a Victoria’s Secret or Calvin Klein model to have confidence. It’s simply knowing that you’ll never be “perfect”, and you’re okay with it! It’s looking in the mirror and saying “Wow, I’m fearfully and wonderfully made, I can do whatever I set my mind to because I’m a BAWSE.” Okay, maybe I got carried away.. you don’t want to get too cocky, but you get my point! Learn to love yourself, because you’re amazing, and very deserving.
Nobody likes somebody who thinks they’re better than anyone else, and like Kacey Musgraves put it, someoene who refuses to step off of their high horse. It’s disgusting. Don’t ever let yourself get to the point where you think you’ve made it all by yourself, because you didn’t. People around you most likely are a huge reason of why you are where you are today. And if you do think you’ve made what you did all by yourself, you haven’t made much.
There is nothing sexier than someone who gives to others out of the goodness of their heart, expecting absolutely nothing back in return. You reap what you sow, and seeds of generosity will always produce great abundance when the time is right. Trust me on that one!!
I’m not talking about standing for the pledge of allegiance or saluting a Sargent in the military- though please do that!! I’m talking about respecting other’s beliefs, perspectives, and choices in life. You don’t have to agree with them, but if you’re willing to hear them out without being rude or obnoxious, it’s a sign that you’re highly mature. Yay!
It’s not a walk in the park to strive to obtain all of these qualities, but it’s definitely something to work towards! I’m all about bettering myself in any way I can, knowing that I’m a hot mess at times, and that’s okay! What really matters is where your heart is at the end of the day. Hopefully this helped and encouraged you!
Xo ~ Rachel.