A Common Misconception About True Love

Ah, love. There’s nothing quite like having such raw emotion and compassion pumping through your veins that overflows and spills out of your heart and soul without your consent. It’s such a beautiful thing to cherish good friendships and relationships to the point where you wouldn’t want to cause a single bit of tension (which obviously makes sense!) But what would you do if someone you loved was headed down a path that you sense might not be in their best interest? That’s when things can really get tricky.

Not many of us enjoy negative confrontation with the people we’re close to which is completely understandable… especially if it’s towards someone you can’t emotionally afford to lose. Sometimes you may think in your head that it’s better to pick and choose your battles, but what if someday you end up losing the war because of all of the “little” battles you relinquished? They may have seemed little at first, but things can add up crazy fast (like the interest on student loans!) Never is it easy to say to a friend or lover, “Hey, you mean so much to me and I don’t want to lose you, but I’m afraid that what you’re doing or where you’re heading might not be so great for you.” Even writing that gave me a tiny sense of uneasiness and I’m not even talking to anyone!

True love should start to kick in around this point. It’s kind of like a fight or flight response, but the decision you’ll make has heavy outcomes either way. When you honestly care for someone, their life choices could very well have a big impact on you. So if you feel something isn’t right, there will be unmistakable indications that you can’t shut off. For instance, you may get that nudging feeling tugging at your heart just wishing to get out into a safe space that can be shared between you and that person. Of course, you want to be delicate and tactful; but remember that truth is one of the many facets of genuine love.

When I think of what it means to really be there for someone and love them, there’s a verse from the bible that really stops me in my tracks when I think about it. John 15:3 “There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” …WHAT! That’s crazy. If you think about it, you don’t truly love someone to the depth that you were meant to until you are willing to sacrifice your own life for that person. I’d just like to throw out that I’m in no way trying to shove my beliefs or faith down anyone’s throat ever, I’m just sharing my heart hoping it can help anyone that sees it.

Bottom line, that’s what it’s all about. How genuine is your love for your friends and family? Are you willing to stand firm on your beliefs and values to the point where it could cause a temporary (or in some cases) permanent rift in your relationships? I know this generation is all about “You do you, boo!” and I personally can’t stand that mentality because it simply shows that you don’t care, and that’s not cute. Love is not about accepting everything and saying, “Well, if it makes you happy…” it’s about saying, “I care for you way too much to sit idly by and watch you go down a dark path without sharing my heart with you because I want the best for you.”

Xo, Rachel

What Does Peace Feel Like? How Do We Find It?

Well, I can certainly tell you what It’s not! Peace is not being brashly serenaded by all the the violence and war that constantly sweeps the covers of newspapers and becomes one of the main focal points in politics. Have you ever turned on the news and found a smile on your face shortly after? If so, I’d love to know what channel you’re watching!

We’re constantly being updated on current events whether we ask for it or not. Whether it be social media, friends, or family. You just can’t get away from this conundrum of a world we live in. It can be such a dark, morose, lonely place that’s desperately craving for something with substance. Anything to hold onto besides the dreams and aspirations of broken and hurting people. I believe this world needs many things, but we most definitely need peace. But how do we get there? If you’re reading this right now, I hope that somehow you experience even a speckle of peace knowing that you matter, even if it’s coming from a stranger like me.

If you had to think of three words to describe peace, what would they be? Personally, I think of being still. Not thinking about the mistakes I’ve made and will make tomorrow, yesterday, or even ten years ago. Sometimes you have to dig deep inside of yourself to remember all of the goodness and treasured times you’ve had on this earth so far. It’s not always easy, but it could encourage and promote peace in your soul. Another one for me would be music. God, I could listen for hours (and I do!) because there’s something about connecting with art that someone else created; that’s such a beautiful thing. Lastly, my third would be my faith. Where would we be if we had nothing to live for? Who would we be? What would be the point of living at all?

The reason I’m writing about this today is because I’ve recently discovered that the more days that are added to our lives, the harder it is to reach out and rekindle that childlike faith that we may have had once for a better world. A world where peace and love transcend any negative feeling or reality no matter what the circumstance. I know that’s a long shot, but even something as simple as entertaining the idea sounds peaceful to me. I hope you find it today in your heart, however it comes through for you.

Hi guys! It’s been such a long time since I’ve written on this blog, and it feels so good to be back! It’s been heavy on my mind and I feel super lead to start writing again, and who am I to neglect a passion anyway? Life sure has a way of seamlessly pulling you in so many different directions whether it be physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually; but alas, sometimes we come back to the things we can’t stop thinking about. Writing is definitely one of my things! 🙂

Xo, Rachel